shanflash - 23 May 2010 01:53 PM
Greetings everyone.
I am a new member to this forum. and am seeking help with a dilemma I currently face. As a 17 year old living in the state of Texas, I want to leave this country and start life elsewhere. Even though I love my country, I?d like to experience what the world, most importantly Spain, has to offer.
Nothing wrong with wanting to move from your home country and experience other cultures, its to be encouraged, the best time to visit and explore would be before/after family/career becomes an issue.
So I come here to ask what is life like in Spain. Is it much more laid back than the United States. I want to live a fruitful, full life full of culture and vibrant.
I have no idea what the life style is like stateside apart from Modern Family, Greys Anatomy etc on TV, having said that from what the media portrays the States have culture in bucket loads.
Spanish is many things to many peeps, some live in Spain and love the same culture celebrations year after year, others find once they’ve experienced it they get bored.
Spanish fiesta’s don’t change with time, you can go the the local Paella fiesta every yr it’ll be the same food, same people, same music as last yr, the yr before and even 50 yrs before.
Valencia has some amazing fiesta’s, but once you’ve seen the huge paper statues being burn’t, thats it, they’ll always be the same.
Spain is very popular but can be boring the longer you live there.
The excitement soon leaves and the holiday experience becomes lost in the usual fight to work and pay bills.
In the US where the ?live to work? mentality reigns people often forget the important things in life; love, laughter, and happiness. For example, I?d much rather enjoy a scintillating conversation or great food than worry about not being able to pay the atrocious cost for health insurance. Spain seems to offer a more laid-back, open minded vibe.
I was surprised by the amount of time Spaniards spend in work, what I experienced was there in work, but not actually doin much work, their not rushed in the same way I was in the UK.
I would arrive with everyone else at 7.30 AM in the local bar/coffee shop, we’d all have coffee together, churros, some would have a brandy with their coffee.then we’d go to the office at around 8am, start doin work, by 10am we’d leave to have breakfast and then as we all worked in clients home around the area would set off at 11AM to do the engineering work.At 1.30pm it was lunch time until 4.30pm, we usually meet in small groups around the areas we worked, lunch would be a typical menu set 3 course which always included a bottle of cheap wine, we all used to mix with Lemonade.Then it was back to work at 4.30pm until 8pm.All the engineers who lived in Malaga would meet up for a beer and a moan until around 10pm, by which time we all left for home and our evening with the kids, the evening meal etc, normally 11pm was the same as 7pm in the UK, by which I mean family programmes would be on TV, most of the time though you’d either be walking with the family before eating or go out to a bar after eating, all with the children.
I was always amazed how goin to bed at 2am was normal and being up by 7am, the timetable is much later than the UK, normally by 11pm most people are goin to bed or its the time adults spend and tv is not for children, at 11pm in Spain children programmes are still on and its normal to see and hear children playing outside, something never done in the UK.
The engineers sometimes worked till 10-11pm, once I was still on a job at 1am, the client was very grateful and bought us a meal in the bar near the home and was still open and serving great food.
The job I had was with a Spanish company and everyone was in work a long time, but unlike the UK weekends are not for work, its the time they use to recover and enjoy life.The attitude was very much work hard in the week and party hard on the weekends.
Street culture, conversation,meeting people is a large part of Spanish life, one my OH still finds hard back in the UK, especially on a summer night, she finds the idea of peeps having BBQ’s in their homes and not being out walking, socialising weird.
It happened most weekends that we would meet friends in the street, go to a bar and sit drinking, eating well into the early hours without any plans too, just spur of the moment actions, its very difficult to walk 100 meters in less than 3 hrs in most Spanish towns that your living in.
Is Spain a country of accepting and open minded people?
That is hard to answer, gays are everywhere, people accept them and don’t seem too mind, other skin colours, thats a different matter, but its getting better with time, although Spanish people have a funny attitude to skin colour, its usually mentioned that someone is negro rather than say Asian or African, its not usually used in malice, usually used to mock, such as the Spanish Basketball team being photographed in the Chinese Olympics making slant eyed jesters with their fingers pulling the corners of their eyes or Formula F1 having people in the crowd with black faces and mocking Lewis Hamilton.
Generally though most outsiders who visit Spain are not finding much to complain about.Living their can be different, I’ve had clients refuse to deal with me and one office girl in our office told me to stop speaking English to the boss, he wanted to practice and was stood next to us, she still had the balls to tell me that I should speak Spanish here.
Most Spaniards have a poor opinion of people who don’t speak the language of Spain and most I know openly agree that they don’t like people moving to their country, I agree with them.
Spaniards are friendly and welcoming to strangers and don’t give problems, even to foreigners who don’t integrate.
In general the stereo typical Spaniard is true, but experience varies.