Hi can anyone give me some support, i have 2 sons aged 16 and 18. I may be moving to Spain in 2 or 3 years and i am not sure if my children will be coming, i am not sure how i will cope leaving them, i live in Wales and my mum and dad and sister and her family all live in England so although i will have my fiance and my mother in law (we are planning to move to Spain together) i will have no family, not sure if i am kidding myself as to wether i can really go through with it, also i have an ebay gift and home accessories business and i am not sure this will survive the move. My fiance has a very stressful job, works incredible hours and has no quality of life here at all so the move for him will be excellent, if i mention i am having regrets it will totally destroy him, any replies greatly received.

You need to look at why your partner needs to move, and why you would move.
Making a list of all the pluses and minuses (a column for each of you) is a good place to start.

Let the alarm bells ring if you are getting more in the ‘reasons not to move’ column for yourself (which it
already sounds you are doing).
Yes, you want to be supportive of your partner, but being honest now is the best policy.  Maybe say you will give
it a try for a period of time (6 months?), don’t give up everything in the UK and see how it goes.

You have to both agree on the move, othewise one of you will be going back alone!
(From someone who moved here lock stock and barrel and wasn’t sure about it. But actually it was (ex) partner
who headed back 9yrs ago!)

Wait in the UK until you can retire or buy a holiday home, Spain is far more stressful than the UK if you need to earn a living to live.

The sun and beach won’t numb the pain of bills, mortgage and missing family, don’t confuse holidays to living full time, its far different and a huge percentage of people rarely stay more than a few yrs.

I left my two children in the UK, one was 18 and at uni the other was 14 and at boarding school (his choice) It was hard but they have their own lives to lead and there is nothing for them in Spain. It is now 6 years later, my youngest is now at uni in Italy and loving it. My eldest has settled down and I have my first Grandchild. This is causing a problem as I am missing out on him growing up. I do try and go over every couple of months. We are now trying to sell our house so that we can buy a flat in the UK and a flat in Spain so we can go easily between the two. I wouldn’t leave Spain, but I now want to spend more time in the UK.

Caz

Totally agree with Tumbit’s advice above, you have to get YOUR reasons in order, and be clear about your priorities for this move - you can’t do it for your partner, or not do it for your relations.  What do YOU want?  Also, work through the practicalities as regards your business - you won’t find generating any new income in Spain easy, and if your business relies on posting stuff then costs will increase from Spain (though if you’re drop-shipping it may be fine). 

Lots of people do find their quality of life improves and stress decreases when they move to Spain, but those factors depend on contented relationships and a reliable income - they’re not automatic.  A trial period, renting both ends, is very wise advice!

Good luck and keep in touch,

BDP x